Thursday, October 18, 2007

Time Out New York syndrome

I may have written about this before, but it's worth repeating. Even though B isn't in my life really much anymore, two things she told me about living in this town resonate. Paraphrased, they are 1) You have to really want to live here. You don't just move here because there's a job here. You have to be about New York on some level. Be about this kind of living. And not necessarily in a snooty, it's-better-than-the-rest-of-America way. Things here can be a challenge. Things here can be distracting. Is the time and money you're going to spend going to be worth it for you? This place can really frustrate me, but not always because things are hard, more that there are so many things, or more often in my case, experiences to be had. 2) The days/weeks you spend circling items in TONY, the arts/culture listings magazine, and then actually getting out to do them will become fewer and more far-between after a while. I remember being that guy for a while. I still aspire to be him, helped by the fact that I've managed to get re-subscribed to Time Out with recalling ever giving them any more money. I was going to ween myself off TONY, focus just on the New Yorker and New York mag, which have consistently better articles and more select listings, but somehow all three of those local periodicals show up in my mailbox on a weekly basis now. But I also have a job that can be pretty exhausting. I work more than when I had an abbreviated-hours real-job with health insurance as well as a beer-money freelance gig online. So while the money bar chart has gone up, the free-time line has gone down. I liked spending part of each day being the social director of my own life, but now I'm just too tired half the time. Ugh! (This in part explains why I haven't been blogging as much recently. And yes, 43 percent of the blogosphere is filled with people apologizing for not posting more frequently.) All that said, I still do love this place at the end of the day, and it's hard to see myself living anywhere else, or if I were to move, it would be painful. And I still do get to see and experience a lot of great things that I'm thankful for.

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